This PR introduces a couple of changes to improve cluster test stability:
1. Increase the cluster node timeout to 3 seconds, which is similar to the
normal cluster tests, but introduce a new mechanism to increase the ping
period so that the tests are still fast. This new config is a debug config.
2. Set `cluster-replica-no-failover yes` on a wider array of tests which are
sensitive to failovers. This was occurring on the ARM CI.
Gossip the cluster node blacklist in ping and pong messages.
This means that CLUSTER FORGET doesn't need to be sent to all nodes in a cluster.
It can be sent to one or more nodes and then be propagated to the rest of them.
For each blacklisted node, its node id and its remaining blacklist TTL is gossiped in a
cluster bus ping extension (introduced in #9530).
In the newly added cluster hostnames test, the primary is failing over during the reboot
for valgrind so we are validating the wrong node. This change just sets the replica to
prevent taking over, which seems to fix the test.
We could have also set the timeout higher, but it slows down the test.
